Suradnički post:From Christmas stockings to taking stock in the New Year

Posted by Dear Skin at 20:51

Drage moje, kako sam najavila jučer : prvi post na engleskom jeziku na mom blogu :)))

Nadam se da niste pomislile kako sam tako brzo naučila engleski :D

Naime, iznimna mi je čast objaviti post moje čitateljice koja me prati iz dalekeee

Velike Britanije, divna žena koja je cijelo vrijeme mog bloganja veelika podrška i potpora.

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First of all, a huge thank you to lovely Martina, whose blog I have been enjoying very much since I started following it in 2013. Thank you for sharing your thoughts with all of us. And thank you for this wonderful opportunity to be a part of it.

I’m a blogging virgin, and a bit shy about sharing my thoughts with anyone other than my nearest and dearest. So please bear with me.

My best wishes for Christmas and the New year to all the readers who celebrate it today (7th Jan). I hope it’s a great one for you all.

Here is my My Cup of post-Christmas and post-New year ‘Detox’ Beauty.



After a really busy year (especially the last few months), Christmas and New Year’s holidays came and went. I didn’t write any cards or send any, although I bought enough for all the people on my list including the stamps. Just never quite got to writing them. Let alone putting up and decorating the Christmas tree. Never quite got in the mood.


That was the first holiday I had in ages. Where there were no deadlines, emails, phone ringing. I felt like the racing truck dust had finally settled inside my mind and I slowed down enough to stop safely. My husband and I enjoyed Christmas Eve and Day together, without any other family or friends. I really enjoyed visiting my in-laws in the middle-of-nowhere (Bogu iza nogu) in the Suffolk countryside, dinner with their lovely friends and an adventure on the way home – a ride on a lorry (lit up like a Christmas tree) with a flat-tyred car on the back of it and a chatty driver in a bouncing air suspension seat. ( link )


I actually enjoyed this Christmas (I would normally rather have slept through the whole thing; but that’s a different story entirely). I enjoyed the time with my nearest and dearest and I actually had a proper break.

For the first time in a very long time I could HEAR silence in my head. How can one hear silence, you ask? When you don’t hear the constant worries, questions, demands, etc. in your head; when all you are able to hear is ….. nothing. Nothing at all. When your mind is like a deserted castle. Not eerie and unpleasant, but calming and comforting instead.

And then you can think of the important things. A memory kept coming back to me then: my cousin and I (when we were children) trying to find a shop, any shop where we could buy some bread, milk, yoghurt and such after the New Year. When you could walk forever and every shop you could see had a sign displayed in their door or window, “Closed for Stock Taking”. Inventura.

So I started thinking about the past year. Taking stock. Thinking about the important things. What was the year like? Good, bad, fantastic, catastrophic, so so? How did I feel? Was I happy with myself? My achievements, my place in the world? My marriage, my family, my relationships, my job? Have I lived my life to the fullest? Did I get distracted too often, too much and forgot what really matters and what is important? Was I happy with decisions I had made, paths I’d chosen? Was I happy with my health, my body – the temple of my soul?

Life is too shot to get bogged down by the problems and lose sight of the real beauty, everyday beauty, beauty that makes us smile, giggle, sigh, laugh out loud, scream or cry with absolute, unadulterated joy and happiness. Everyday moments in life. The metaphorical roses. Or the real ones.

I took stock of the past year, the joys and the sorrows. I de-toxed my mind, unchained the invisible bonds and made a few New Year resolutions. Oh, nothing so common like: I’ll lose weight, I’ll exercise more, I’ll eat less chocolate, etc.



My resolutions are more of a detox-for-the-mind kind. Like:
·         Love myself more and not be so hard on myself. Listen to my body more.
·         Not give of myself where it’s not appreciated. Do we all do that occasionally?
·         Not set overly high goals for myself, outside of my limits; take small steps to reach my goals steadily with less (painful) setbacks.
·         Sleep more, because I will go to bed earlier. And then I can floss more! And have better skin! (Yeeeeey!!! J I WILL!!! I must!!! :-o ….. I’d better!
·         Nurture my talents more and let them grow. Express myself more in creative ways (not just through make up J). But not buy too much make up and skin care (is that even possible?!?)

Since I mostly (90%) cook nice, fresh food throughout the year anyway and drink lots of herbal teas of all good healthy sorts, I’ll just continue to do that. So I can have more energy to live better and enjoy myself more. I won’t be having any special detox diet or anything like that. Because I LOVE cooking. (Notice I said cooking, NOT washing up!) And I create something good and healthy and delicious (well, most of the time J; when I don’t do silly experiments). With and without my lovely husband J. And because it reminds me of my grandparents. The pleasure and passion they cooked with. Their conversations and laughter around the table at meals for an occasional weekend and during summer holidays. A freezer full of our favourite ingredients / meals – pasta e fagioli, black risotto, cabbage rolls (sarme) for each grandchild. … And a lifetime of great memories. …


Have you enjoyed your time at Christmas and New Year? How do you enjoy spending it most- family or friends?  What are your resolutions or ‘detoxes’?

Have a great year, everybody! <3


29 komentari:

  1. Yeeees, wonderfull time everyyyyyy year for my family!!!!!! :-)

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    1. Good to hear that! :-) Do you have any family traditions- games, chores/ duties (who cooks, washes up or bakes)?

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  2. Lovely post! I really loved the feeling while reading this one ^^ relaxing, unchained and free :)
    I'd love to read more from you.
    Greetings and best wishes in 2014!

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    1. Thank you, and my best wishes to you! I'm really glad you enjoyed reading it. I hope you like my other posts :-)

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  3. Dear, thank you for this wonderful post. This year, I decided to work on the most "detox-for-the-mind kind".

    Forget the worries at least for a moment, let's enjoy the things that make us happy, and I honestly believe that we will all be better and then great.
    I must commend beautiful photos, I hope you'll let us and you will soon open blog and to honor our beautiful texts often even this humble blog.

    P.S. Nadam se da se nisam jako osramotila svojim engleskim :D

    Predivan post <3

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    1. You are so welcome, thank YOU for having me :-D And thank you for such a celebrity style introduction and advertising. There is absolutely nothing to be ashamed of! I really admire people who at least try and make an effort and are aware of their imperfections and are willing to work on them. I think the loudest critics are often the ones who are even worse than we are at whatever they criticize. I don't mind if people comment in both languages, I'll try and reply if possible. And we all might improve our English like that :-)

      I have some more ideas and photos ready, but need time to get it ready. I have promised a post for another one of your colleagues, and I better deliver very soon. ;-)

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    2. We are waiting for new post dear :))

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    3. Ooooops! I hope I don't disappoint! I didn't mean to set the standard so high (she said modestly and rolled her eyes ;-) )
      I'll send you some ramblings soon. x

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  4. Such a lovely post, so relaxed, you did such a wonderful job at portraying the peacefulness of Christmas...and that's all it's realy about, isn't it? People seem to forget that these days and they turn it all into such a stressful time instead of truely enjoying it :) you realy should be writing more often, you're such a joy to read :)

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    1. Thank you very much! I will write more, and I hope the latter posts will be so well received as this one.
      It is about peace, and people very often forget that. I'm glad I managed to get that across. And especially here where you start seeing Christmas themed shop windows in (September?) / October and then everybody gets on the advertising band wagon :-p .... And you find yourself swept away with the masses. My solution is to try get all the Xmassy thoughts out of my head and just treat it like a little holiday with no expectations. It works a treat and I'm so much more relaxed about it then.

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  5. Great post and photos !

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    1. Thank you, I'm really glad you enjoyed it!

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  6. Great post and lovely photos. Also, such a good Idea from Martina to have something like this on her blog.
    About my resolution... I already now that for me 2014. is going to be very hectic and stressfull with lot of changes so I try to prepare myself in advance.
    First of all, by thinking positively and avoiding those people who don`t and getting enough sleep and physical activity to help me feel my best trough my new busy schedule.


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    1. Thank you! I wish you the best of luck with your endeavours. Martina's idea was brilliant and it came at such good time for me. Please let us know if there is anything in particular you would like to read about. Maybe we can make ourselves useful :-)
      Look after yourself and your well being. And listen to your body. I hope it goes well whatever you have planned for this year. :-)

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  7. Woooow!!! It's really very exciting as well as humbling to see my first post live on Martina's blog... And your lovely comments! .... Thank you all so very much <3 :D

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  8. Martina ti si do sad pisala sve vreme na hrvatskom, i sad kao neka zena koja nema pojma hrvatski prati tvoj blog, i kao pita te da joj dopustis da ona napise text za tvoj blog, jer nema gde da podeli gomilu ovih gluposti o novogodisnjim odlukama.. Koga zabole za necije odluke? Pratim te od kad si pocela, ovaj post je promasaj. Sorry

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    1. Tko kaze da autorica teksta ne zna hrvatski? U tom slučaju me ne bi pratila cijelo ovo vrijeme.

      Koga ne zanimaju tuđe novogodisnje odluke,jednostavno preskočiti .
      Hvala ti na komentaru :)

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  9. Lovely post and I am glad you are here with us! ;)
    May I ask how did you come across this blog (cos it is in Croatian-do you speak it or?)
    My resolutions are basically the same as yours, hehe, except that I am planning to seriously lose weight.
    All in all, I want to finally dedicate this year to MYSELF and become stronger (hopefully, wiser too! :D)
    Greetings! <3

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    1. Thank you, I am glad to be here, too! I started following Alter Ego Style - (found some of her looks on Preen me, so I looked her up); then A little makeup obsessed and Dear Skin, then A girl in Berlin .....And yes, I do speak it, but not very often as I am surrounded by the native Brits. When I do speak it, it sounds almost like Cro-nglish :-) ;-)
      Would you like to see a food related post?
      All the best:-)

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    2. Oh, that is pretty cool! :)
      Yeah, I would totally be interested in food post- especially food for "beauty" and weight loss.
      Do write one if you have time! :)

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  10. Great post :) I hope you will visit us more often! You have very eloquently summoned up most of peoples (and mine) common regrets. Mine are working too much and not thinking of the everyday beautiful things; not spending enough time with family and friends, worrying about what others thought about me so much, not having enough confidence in myself, wish I have been more outgoing and carefree, trusting that voice in the back of my head more.....we can all relate to most of these regrets. The point is we can’t change the past, so the question is what are we going to do with the rest of our lives to ensure we don’t experience any (or most) of these regrets later....

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    1. Glad you like the post! I'll try and visit when I have some more decent ideas. And time (never enough of that)!

      Sometimes I found that other people are very happy and confident voicing their complaints, or pettiness or jealousies, and I think that's because they like to deflect attention from themselves and their own lack of virtues. You live for yourself, with yourself and inside your own head. And only you need to be happy with yourself. .... Everybody else can go fish... :-)

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  11. a good one. I like the idea of having other bloggers writing guest posts :)

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  12. lovely post, wish i could spend just one holidays alone with my hubby, i envy you on that :D
    no new year's resolutions for me... i can only try to be better to myself, because i'm already too good to everyone else ;)

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    1. Thank you! It's like that because we don't have children or pets!
      No need for any resolutions or decisions. Take each day at a time and do what a wise lady (yourself) tells you - be better to yourself. And don't feel guilty for saying no to other people. They might not be used to it, so they will complain and try to manipulate...
      All the best :-)

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  13. Ooh I never thought I'd see some English over here :) I hope your year will be filled with all good things :)

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    1. Thank you, good wishes right back at ya :-) !
      Glad you like the language change.

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